Transform the way you relate to yourself—for lasting change that feels compassionate, grounded, and true.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by inner conflict or stuck in patterns that don’t make sense—even when you try your hardest to change? Whether you’re facing a specific challenge or simply longing for a deeper sense of peace and purpose, I’m here to guide you through a transformative process rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS), also known as Parts Work.
You're not broken—and you're not alone. Many people feel frustrated, stuck, or exhausted from trying to will themselves into change. That’s because willpower isn’t the problem. Often, it’s inner Parts that are working hard to protect you—but in ways that may now be holding you back. In Breakthrough Coaching, we don’t try to silence those inner voices. Instead, we get curious. We listen. And with compassion, we begin to create healing and cooperation inside. This is where true transformation begins.
Breakthrough Coaching is a personalized journey grounded in the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Together, we’ll gently explore the Parts of you that are trying to manage your life—and the ones that may be acting out in pain.
This approach helps you:
Build a compassionate relationship with all your inner Parts—even the ones you’ve tried to push away.
Understand how protective patterns developed and how they’re trying to help you.
Unburden painful past experiences and begin to feel more calm, connected, and whole.
You don’t have to fight yourself anymore. You can learn to lead yourself—from your true Self.
Every session is a safe, respectful space where all Parts of you are welcome. You don’t need to explain yourself perfectly or have it all figured out. We begin wherever you are—with whatever Part is showing up today. Here’s how we work:
You’ll begin to recognize and map the inner Parts of you that show up in daily life—such as the inner critic, the perfectionist, the controller, or the comfort-seeker. These Parts aren't bad—they're trying to help in the best ways they know how.
We take time to hear from the Parts that are managing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We get curious about their fears, their history, and what they're trying to prevent. As trust grows, these Protectors can soften—and allow deeper healing to unfold.
Often beneath our stuck patterns are wounded Parts that carry the pain of past experiences. With your permission, we gently connect with these younger, more vulnerable Parts, offering them presence, compassion, and ultimately—relief.
As inner conflict eases and Parts begin to trust your leadership, your authentic Self can step forward with more clarity, calm, and confidence. From here, you begin to create habits, relationships, and goals that are truly aligned with who you are.
Clients come to me when they are tired of “fixing” themselves and ready to build real, lasting inner harmony. Some of the outcomes include:
Ending Internal Conflict: Understand and harmonize the inner Parts that feel like they’re fighting each other.
Healing Emotional Pain: Gently unburden the Parts carrying grief, fear, or shame.
Creating Sustainable Change: Build supportive inner relationships that fuel long-term healing and growth.
Improving Relationships: Strengthen your ability to communicate, set boundaries, and show up with more presence and compassion.
Regaining Self-Trust: Lead your life from a place of inner clarity, not just external pressure or people-pleasing.
About Sheila Gravely
Sheila is a natural health professional, a biblical counselor, a Japanese acupressure practitioner, and a master certified life coach. She is also trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), a groundbreaking model of inner healing that is transforming lives worldwide.
As a FARA-Certified Food Addiction Recovery Advocate, she brings deep understanding to the emotional and behavioral patterns that keep people stuck—and how to shift them gently, from the inside out.
In both her private coaching practice and her work with the Addiction Reset Community, Sheila integrates Parts Work with natural health, spiritual support, and lived experience. Her approach is warm, collaborative, and rooted in the belief that healing begins when we stop trying to fight ourselves—and start listening with compassion.
Sheila lives in Herndon, Virginia, with her husband of 42 years. She is the proud mother of two adult children and grandmother to four spirited little ones.
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"Sheila has an incredible way of helping me see things more clearly. With her guidance, I’ve been able to shift old patterns and take real steps toward a life I actually feel excited about. Her compassion and insights are truly life-changing!"
"Before working with Sheila, I felt stuck and overwhelmed by my own thoughts. Sheila helped me understand my emotions better and take practical steps to feel more in control of my life. I can’t recommend her enough!"
"Sheila created a space where I felt completely safe to share my struggles. She gently guided me toward solutions that made sense for my life. Thanks to her, I’ve built habits that actually stick, and I feel more confident than ever."
"I didn’t realize how much my negative thought patterns were affecting me until I started working with Sheila. She gave me practical tools to turn things around, and I feel so much more balanced and at peace with myself."
"Sheila’s coaching is exactly what I needed. She helped me reconnect with my goals and focus on what really matters. Every session left me feeling empowered, supported, and ready to take on the world."
"Working with Sheila has been a game-changer. She helped me uncover what was holding me back and gave me tools to finally start moving forward. Her approach is so warm and supportive, yet she knows how to help you make real progress."
"Sheila has a gift for meeting you where you are and helping you take meaningful steps forward. She taught me practical strategies to manage my emotions and build habits that align with my goals. I’ve never felt so supported and understood."
"I was skeptical about coaching at first, but Sheila completely changed my perspective. Her ability to break things down and offer real, actionable steps has made such a difference in my life. I feel more confident, capable, and hopeful for the future."
If you’re looking for a coaching experience that goes beyond surface-level solutions, Breakthrough Coaching is here to support you. Together, we’ll work to create the clarity, confidence, and skills you need to build the life you want. Let’s get started today.